For the longest time, I was convinced that I was responsible for others’ feelings. Making them happy, keeping them from disappointments, protecting them from sadness. What a heavy burden that is. Seriously what qualifications do I have to consider that? This is not a reasonable responsibility for even a perfect human being. It is hard enough to keep my own emotions protected.
It should be our responsibility to be aware and kind to others’ feelings. Acting kindly to strangers, showing respect to someone who is acting rudely, being patient with those who are demanding our attention, or staying with someone who is crying uncontrollably is not out of ‘responsibility to control others’ feelings’. Rather it should be our life practice to treat others the way you would like to be treated. No one can control others' emotions.
So….
Why do we continue to try and feel responsible for others’ happiness?
When we finally say that “ I am NOT responsible for other’s feelings. I cannot make others happy”, why do we feel we are losing something which we never really had?
How do we accept that it (the fact you are not responsible for other’s feelings) is a great truth and find freedom in it?
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